Domestic Violence and Stockholm Syndrome

Dr. Joseph Carver, who has written some other great articles I have posted on my site, has another stellar addition called, Love and Stockholm Syndrome: The Mystery of Loving an Abuser. This article explores in detail some other reasons abuse victims do not leave, and will actually defend, their abusers. This one is a must-read!

2 Responses

  1. I found the part about the “perception of small kindness” especially good.
    Not many professionals give such excellent examples of the subtle way abusers can manipulate us.
    And I like how he discusses both the Stockholm Syndrome and Cognitive Dissonance.
    Thanks for finding this article, Danni!

  2. After sleeping on his article, I have an even higher opinion of it. He coins the term “trouble” to encapsulate all the subtle and not so subtle tactics of abuse which the victim is trying to avoid. Brilliant.
    He didn’t go into the term ‘co-dependency’ (a term I find demeaning and unhelpful) but his paper explained really clearly to me why ‘co-dependency’ is a bad term. He says that victims do not INTEND to develop the Stockholm Syndrome or cognitive dissonance: they develop involuntarily.

    The term co-dependency always seemed to me to imply that the co-dependent person was voluntarily being co-dependant (and could stop it if they only exerted a little common sense and will power). But to say that the person develops a syndrome involuntarily gives no blame to the victim.

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