Donations to Danni Moss & Because It Matters

Donations for Because It Matters & Danni Moss

Several people have asked about making donations to me and to this work. I have thought long and hard about this. I believe that God is my provider. This is what He has given me to do – and He knows all my circumstances. I am no different than most women who have gotten out of an abusive marriage, especially those of us who did so later in life, in poor health, and/or with children to support. Anyone who has been there knows the needs are huge, overwhelming and continuous. And God is faithful.

Yet, the Word does say not to muzzle the ox who treads the corn, and that the laborer is worthy of his hire. I have been reminded by more than one person that there are those who may like to give to such a work as this. By not having a donation mechanism I am depriving others and myself of this blessing.

I have put a link to a permanent page like this in the left sidebar, which will stay there for ease of location. The donation buttons here go to New Hope Outreach’s account for Danni Moss and Because It Matters. New Hope Outreach is an organization of which I have been part for several years. We offer online and local help for women in need, especially addressing issues of abuse, child abuse prevention, etc. New Hope has offered to accept donations on my behalf, enabling readers to make a tax-deductive donation.

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Pastor Charged with Spanking Child Who Reported Sexual Abuse

Amazing – and folks, this happens in churches. If the allegations are true, this situation is not unique.

Pastor on trial for spanking girl for reporting abuse.

When the Innocent is Unjustly Convicted

By Danni Moss
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In our day when clergy sex abuse is one of the hot trends and topics, it is reasonable and logical to expect that some will be falsely accused. If we didn’t think of that on our own, there have been publicized cases of false accusations proven false.

But I think we would be extremely naïve if we didn’t also accept that there will be times when an innocent party is unjustly convicted. This reality does not change the fact that an innocent person must not plead guilty, for the reasons stated elsewhere.

At the same time, how does the convicted person go on from there? What do we do when a loved one is falsely convicted? This is so profoundly wrong and it will dramatically affect the rest of the life of that falsely accused person.

God doesn’t leave this reality out of consideration in the Word. We are given the example of both Daniel and Joseph.

One thing we tend to do when we read events in the Bible is to forget that the people who lived those “stories” didn’t know the end. They didn’t know it was going to work out the way it did. They lived it blind, by faith – just the same as we must do today.

To assume that all the horrible things which could happen in prison, having a conviction on one’s permanent record, being separated from family for many years or a lifetime, etc. are bigger than God is short-sighted. Nothing that occurs in our lives catches God by surprise. Not even such a wickedly horrible thing as being falsely convicted of sex abuse. In fact, that was Joseph’s alleged crime!

We have to hold to the fact that God works ALL things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Would this not include a falsely accused minister?

Horribly unfair things happen to God’s people – and God is bigger than that. That is one of my favorite statements. God is bigger than this. God WILL glorify Himself, and He will remain faithful, even to an unjustly convicted servant of God. None of us are greater than our master – who suffered unjust accusation even to death.

God will use even this experience to accomplish His purposes and He will be faithful to the one falsely accused. We may not understand how or see it today, but this is the truth of the Word. Faith accepts and acts on what is not seen. Bitterness and anger will only hurt us – a yielded heart is blessed, even in excruciatingly painful places.

Respect and Equality in Marriage

By Danni Moss
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Are respect and equality in marriage a radical feminist idea of fairly recent origin? Are they against the plain teaching of the Word?

Ah, I hear the “buts” already. Why am I putting respect and equality on the same footing in that statement? Evangelical and fundamentalist Christians everywhere would say respect and equality are not intrinsically linked. “I can respect my wife in her position beneath me.” That’s what popular Christian marital role philosophy teaches.

True respect values another as being just as important as myself. Respect sees the other person as equal or greater in value. And respect doesn’t pick and choose, limiting respect to a theoretical concept, while still viewing the other as “less” in many ways. It isn’t respect if it isn’t respect.

The Word’s admonition for husbands to love their wives as their own bodies is a good example of this. Who among us is going to treat our own body abusively (deliberately – not through poor diet choices, etc.) Granted there are some people who do hurt themselves – but we can hardly say that is a good thing! We don’t like pain and we go out of our way to avoid it. That is respect for ourselves – I respect my own feelings enough not to deliberately violate them. We are fundamentally created to avoid hurting ourselves – that’s what nerve endings and pain receptors are for! I consider my leg to be just as important as the rest of me. Same with my eye or my foot. That is respect. There is NO element of choosing “less” or “greater.”

In a marriage relationship, respect cannot be one-sided. That will be a relationship destined for abuse on some level. The minute there is a heirarchy, there is some element of disrespect, because there is an expectation that some are “above” others. That means, by default, that those others are “less” or “lower” than those above them.

This is so simply logical, and yet, it is denied. You can put all the words on it you want like “equal but with different roles” – and it is still a higher-lower relationship – which is one of disrespect. Equal with different roles would be equal with different roles, not hierarchical with different roles.

It’s exactly like the prejudiced idea of racial “equality” popularly phrased “equal but separate” – that wasn’t equality of value or respect! I don’t care what words or fancy explanations you want to concoct – it is still disrespect. If one person is “lower” than the other in a heirarchy, that is disrespect at the most basic level – and therefore disrespectful throughout. You cannot have an uneven foundation and expect the building to be level – or secure.

This idea of disrespect in hierarchy is fundamentally in opposition of everything Jesus taught. He gave up His “rights” and put Himself in the lowest position – and instructed husbands to do the same. That doesn’t sound like the hierarchical system the church teaches at all. In fact, it would put husbands as EQUAL to their wives. What a novel concept.

We also have to remember the cultural paradigm of the time when Jesus spoke. In that culture men owned women – women had no rights. They were very little different than slaves – which makes it that much more interesting that the passages about wives and slaves are seen in close proximity in the Word.

Without attempting to directly attack the cultural reality of the day, Jesus effectively overturned it by telling husbands to put themselves in the position of servant to their wives. We interpret that through the lenses of our culture, which does not include slavery. So we think of “servant” as just someone who does nice things for someone else or helps out with the household tasks. We MUST understand it the way Jesus meant it when He said it.

Slaves had the least status of everyone. Jesus told men NOT to lord over their wives (that was His paradigm of leadership across the board, stated elsewhere) – but instead to be the servants in the relationship – to voluntarily take the lowest position in the culturally-expected hierarchical system of the time. That would make them equal to the women, slaves and children rather than being “over” them in a hierarchical system.

If we interpret the rest of the admonitions on marriage from this fundamental perspective, it changes everything.

On a side note — would that make Jesus the original radical feminist??? I think not. And it doesn’t make me one either. It just makes me a Biblical literalist – who believes that taking the Bible literally means taking the entire thing in context, rather than picking out bits and creating doctrines on verses here and there. Hmm – how strange and wicked – and radical – is that?